My brand is called Epiphany Me, and my mission is to enlighten others and help them discover their inner light. Yet, in all honesty, I am currently in a season where I need my own epiphany. I, too, am on a journey to find my way. This brings up an important question: what does it really mean to find your way back to yourself?
I often find myself asking these existential questions, but perhaps they’re not as weighty as they seem. For instance, what does it mean to be in a season of life and wonder if you’re living the life that God intended for you? At 35 years young, I feel as though the years have simply flown by. There’s a strange feeling that comes with spending years building toward something, only to reach the goal and question whether it’s truly what you wanted or what you see yourself doing for the rest of your life.
If you, like me, are wrestling with these questions, I’ve put together some prompts and reflections to help guide you back to yourself. As Erykah Badu (2000) beautifully expresses in her song “Didn’t Cha Know,” “when I stumble off my path, I know my heart will guide me back.” So as you read the following sections, listen to what your heart has to say.
Motivation vs. Obligation
Are you genuinely motivated, or are you acting out of a sense of obligation? Take a moment to consider whether you are pursuing activities that truly inspire and excite you, or if you’re simply doing things because you feel you should. Sometimes, life requires us to fulfill obligations-paying bills, going to work, being a caretaker, exercising, maintaining a healthy diet, and keeping up with doctor’s appointments. These tasks may not spark motivation, but they are necessary for survival and well-being. We pay bills to have shelter, we care for those who depend on us, and we prioritize our health to live a life that’s worthwhile.
However, when it comes to how we approach our daily commitments and the energy we bring, the choice is ours. Yes, we need to work to live, but are we living just to work? More importantly, do you even enjoy the work that you do?
Reflect on what truly motivates you. Ask yourself the following questions: What brings you inspiration or joy? Beyond the necessities, what do you daydream about doing? Money is important and undeniably a necessity, but if you set aside financial concerns, what could you see yourself doing for a lifetime-even on the tough days? What activities do you find satisfying, regardless of the challenges or responsibilities involved?
What Are You Absorbing?
This may be the most crucial area to reflect on. Consider the information and messages you’re taking in daily. Who is in your circle? Who do you share your dreams with? Do these people uplift and inspire you, or do you often leave their company feeling anxious, drained, or depleted? Pay attention to your feelings, and protect your hopes and dreams with intention. Not everyone around you will be a cheerleader, and not everyone will want to see you succeed. It’s important to be discerning about the opinions and energy you allow into your life.
This extends beyond people to even the media you consume. Reflect on the kind of music you listen to, the movies, shows, books, or podcasts you spend your time with. If your days are filled with toxic reality TV, divisive podcasts, or music with dark themes, it can impact your mental peace. Whether you realize it or not, you’re absorbing messages-both directly and subliminally-from your environment. Choose wisely.
This is not about being judgmental or “holier than thou”-I enjoy secular music and I do curse. However, the point I’m trying to make is -I aim for balance. So, try mixing up your music selection a few days a week. Swap out drill music for jazz, instrumental, gospel, or secular music without explicit content. Replace some low-vibration shows and podcasts with content that focuses on positive psychology, offers financial advice, or supports personal well-being. These small changes can make a big difference in your mindset. Which leads me to my final point.
What Are You Transforming?
Consider what you are actively working to change in your life. If you’re unsatisfied with your career, remember the phrase: “set systems, not goals.” It’s not enough to simply wish to retire by 50, or buy that house, or make said amount of money. Instead, establish daily activities or tasks that will lead you toward your larger goal.
Ask yourself: What small steps do you need to take for the next few days, weeks, months, years? Basically, what are the daily decisions or steps you can begin implementing now to help move you closer to your vision? This might mean attending a free webinar, going to a networking event, or participating in a professional development opportunity at work. Once you find a system that works for you, commit to it.
Lastly
These prompts and reflections are just a starting point to get your thoughts and ideas flowing. Use them to help reignite your passion and guide you as you find your way back to yourself-the Epiphany way.
💜-Dr. Jas
References:
Erykah Badu. (2000). Didn’t Cha’ Know [Song]. On Mama’s Gun; Motown Records.
